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The Ridge Creek School / Hidden Lake Academy / Re: HLA Facebook Groups
« on: August 14, 2009, 03:05:41 PM »
First off, I was 30 when pregnant with Lacey. Hardly a pregnant teen. If I wanted the money, I'd have stayed in that hell, let the live-in housekeeper raise the kids, gone on all the corporate jaunts and be the cute little "trophy wife" with the two beautiful children. I had it made and to stay in the style to which I was acustomed, was an option and a hard one to give up. I could have turned a "blind eye" to betrayals and the definate coming damage to the children, to protect my "comfortable" life. I enjoyed traveling first class around the world and struggled incredibly with my condition at the time, would I be the best person for the kids to be with? Of course I debated seriously with what was the better of obviously, two evils. At 53, I have broad shoulders. You have incredible anger and to the end of working that out, if you need to rant at me, oh well. As for being a drunk, again, as I know I have said this before, I started in Al-Anon in 1984. I didn't dink through either of my pregnancies, but the moment the children were born and the in house nurse and housekeeper were there to "cover" things, I drank heavily. I did not make the decision to seperate drinking. I seperated 9/23/86 - court was 9/28 - moved to a much downsized lifestyle and was in the hospital to have my child by c-sect a few days later...with both kids, I was very sick afterwards. I do not need anyone's sympathy. I do appreciate the empathy shown by some, but after 53 years of a very hard life, I take responsibility for my part in whatever bad choices I made. As of April 28th 1989, I have been sober. It took many 24 hour chips for me to get sober, starting in 1987...am I a drunk? once a pickle, I say, always a pickle...that one, you never get to undo..Lacey spent all her young life going to AA mtgs...
I would put Lacey's elementary education and life experience up against your ignorant world view, anyday! I may not be the best typest/speller/grammer person, but I have learned alot about mean-spirited people. One of the issues was, in middle school when all the IEP crap started, the "testing" began. She tested out at a college level of intellectual understanding of ideas. Coming from a great-grandmother, who was an university trained opera singer, and coming from a long line of graduate level educated family, except me, it was not a suprise to me, her level of development. You are right, she and I do have alot in common. The STUPID? simple belief? hope? that people, for no reason, would hurt you. I have never been able to proccess that and still don't. After all the hurt and violation, I claim the right, to trust. but verify. Lacey is a great mother and I don't know how old you are, but when my grandson goes off to college, she and her husband will be young enough to go travel the world and enjoy life. I am proud of her and have great respect for the responsibility she has shown towards the challenges come her way. She has "posted" to be accountable and your slander of her good life is beneath you. I'm not sure how much my sharing is helping Lacey. I will check with her, if I should write anything more....
I would put Lacey's elementary education and life experience up against your ignorant world view, anyday! I may not be the best typest/speller/grammer person, but I have learned alot about mean-spirited people. One of the issues was, in middle school when all the IEP crap started, the "testing" began. She tested out at a college level of intellectual understanding of ideas. Coming from a great-grandmother, who was an university trained opera singer, and coming from a long line of graduate level educated family, except me, it was not a suprise to me, her level of development. You are right, she and I do have alot in common. The STUPID? simple belief? hope? that people, for no reason, would hurt you. I have never been able to proccess that and still don't. After all the hurt and violation, I claim the right, to trust. but verify. Lacey is a great mother and I don't know how old you are, but when my grandson goes off to college, she and her husband will be young enough to go travel the world and enjoy life. I am proud of her and have great respect for the responsibility she has shown towards the challenges come her way. She has "posted" to be accountable and your slander of her good life is beneath you. I'm not sure how much my sharing is helping Lacey. I will check with her, if I should write anything more....